EP51 of the Unspoken Words podcast features our latest installment of our Ask Dr. E series, where we answer real questions from our listeners.

In the episode, we answer five questions, including how to handle anxiety-triggered potty talk, should you explain Selective Mutism directly to your child, strategies for teachers & more.

HOW DO I ADDRESS MY CHILD’S ANXIOUS POTTY TALK?

In this segment, Dr. E answers a question from a parent who claims her daughter uses potty talk excessively in public, especially when anxious, and doesn’t know how to tell her to stop without discouraging her for speaking. 

Dr. E encourages parents to state to their child the behavior’s inappropriateness, not giving undue attention, and reinforcing positive behavior. 

She gives the example of a past client, who repeatedly said ‘lingerie’ in public settings – making everyone around him uncomfortable. The goal Dr. E stresses during this clip is balanced correction without suppressing communication.

HOW CAN I MAKE SURE MY SELECTIVELY MUTE CHILD IS SAFE IN SWIM CLASS?

In this clip, Dr. E responds to a parent fearful their child with Selective Mutism won’t be able to speak up during swim class, jeopardizing her safety.

Dr. E emphasizes educating the instructor before class, so they are aware of your child’s social communication challenges. 

Also mentioned are fostering peer connections and ensuring comfort, as that will help your child speak up, even non-verbally.

HOW DO I HELP MY TEEN SPEAK UP WITH PEERS?

In this clip, Dr. E answers a question from a parent with a 17-year-old daughter with Selective Mutism, struggling to connect with their peers. 

Dr. E recommends this parent’s teenager find areas of interest, which will foster natural interactions. Dr. E stresses that this parent should connect with their teen’s teachers and school staff, as they could help foster these opportunities a bit more than the typical child.

SHOULD YOU DISCUSS SELECTIVE MUTISM WITH YOUR CHILD?

In this clip, Dr. E responds to a question on whether or not to talk about Selective Mutism openly with your selectively mute child. She advises to do this, as it will reduce confusion and anxiety overall. Avoiding the topic will perpetuate more anxiety. 

Overall, as Dr. E mentions, demystifying Selective Mutism and helping children understand their feelings gives them better control. 

Dr. E recommends using age-appropriate language. As always, collaboration between parents, educators, and professionals is essential to support the child. Everyone being on the same page is crucial.

HOW CAN TEACHERS HELP STUDENTS WITH SELECTIVE MUTISM INTERACT WITH PEERS?

In this clip, Dr. E provides some advice for teachers dealing with children with Selective Mutism in their class. 

Dr. E discusses a number of strategies for teachers to encourage verbal communication in students with selective mutism. She emphasizes building comfort for their students, using small groups and the buddy process, and creating a supportive environment through accommodations like 504 plans and IEPs. 

Dr. E stresses that teachers must be trained by clinicians and parents, as that will help everyone involved – especially the child.